How to Be a Calm Person?
We all have been through tough times in our life. How to remain calm at times when life takes a test of the grit? Read more to know how to be a calm person?
I have heard this complement from many friends and even from some strangers as well that I am a calm person. As per them I never lose my temper, which is actually not true. There are times when I too become angry and lose my tempers, though it happens very rarely.
We are living at a time when we had to face so many tensions. Be it related with our work place, work pressure mounting its toll on everyone, be it issues in the relationship, be it related with the health issues of either our own or some closed family members, and don’t know how many other issues, but we all are bound to face them.
We normally see that the other person always remain calms, there must be no issues in his or her life, but it is not true. Do you think I don’t have tensions in my life? I certainly do have, even more than some people of this universe. But then it is also true that we all want to stay calm and compose at those times.
Is not it’s your desire to stay calm and compose at the stressful times?
Don’t you too realize that staying calm and composed at the times of stress would have benefited you?
Frankly it is true; we all want to stay calm and composed at the time of emergency, but we can’t.
Let me tell you the secret. Though it is not anything which is not known to anyone, but we all forget to follow these things which help us to stay calm at the necessary times.
It can be difficult to stay calm at times, but it is not impossible.
Although I have written two blog posts on exactly the same things which I am sure is going to help you. You can read my blog on how to keep yourself calm, I am sure it can give you some better idea about how to be a calm person, while you can also read the blog of Ayushi Nagpal on how to stay calm. I am quite sure that these two blogs will give a better perspective of understanding how you can make yourself a calm person.
Here are some tips which can help you to remain calm at the necessary times:
If something is taking test of your patience, let those things should take backseat for some moments. Let detach yourself from those issues for some time. I do remember one great line which I read somewhere, when something’s make you angry, don’t ever try to respond to them at the same moment.
I have realized this lately, there was a time when I was getting some emails which made me angry for any reason and I use to respond to it quickly. But now these days I use to ignore such mails, or conversations which make me angry, and then after sometime when I calm down a bit I use to respond to those.
Diverting your mind from issues for some time, unless you feel a little bit calmer, can make things possible.
You need to find the thing which comes under your comfort factors. I won’t say to breathe deep, or drink water, this time, but it is you who need to decide which things can make you calm.
Play a game, either temple run on your mobile, or candy crush on Facebook, or count from one to ten, or do whatever you love to do and which can make you calm at situations. Although I would never suggest anyone to do smoking, drinking or taking drugs for all these. These are the things which won’t make you calm, but will further increase your impatience level.
As I suggest in my last post on the same types of topic that you can also learn some meditation and yoga as well to become calm.
Sometimes laughter therapy can also work wonders for you, though I always prefer to watch some comedy movie or comedy TV serial to laugh, instead of laughing of no reasons.
Emotions are something which can always stop you to take correct decisions. Especially when you are facing such a situation in which a person is taking tests of your grit, it is better to keep emotions aside.
Try to use your brain and reach to a logical solution of the situation. If you can think properly I am sure you can easily be able to come out of the situation.
Just try to draw strength from your glorious past. It might be possible that today you are not living a life which you were having a few days or months or years back, but you can take inspiration from those previous days as well.
I never support anyone to live in the glorious past only, you should obviously be clear of your present, but then you can certainly take inspiration from the same.
It is something which always works for becoming calm down.
I do believe that loneliness is a bad disease and we all should not live a life with a thinking of being lonely. At least we should have some friends with whom we can share everything which we want to. No matter if the friends is connected through FB or Gmail or through phone only. Who says that physical presence of a friend is always required? You just need to share your issues with your friend and see how easily issues can be resolved.
Do remember one thing though, friendship is a very touchy thing, you cannot assume it as a One Way journey, when you need your friend you can remember them, but when your friends need you, you cannot simply ignore them.
Although at times of problems, or issues in your life, friends are always there to help you to stay calm.
The last but not the least tips to stay calm and composed are to cry it out. No matter of which gender you do belong to, but crying always helps you to become calm. It is normally said that instead of keeping things inside your heart, it is better to throw them out with tears.
It certainly helps to become calm.
So those were some of the tips which I suppose can have the ability to make you a calm person. What do you think about this blog post of mine? Please do share your opinion in the form of comments below. I would love to hear your opinion about this blog post of mine.
I love the image on this one Alok :).. Nice and very elegant :).
And a lovely post indeed, a much needed one. Esp I needed this cos the last two weeks have been a little crazy, too many various things running on my mind and I am not able to organize things properly :).. I need some diversion, maybe a great movie 🙂
Thank you so much Vinay 🙂 Credit of this image designing goes to me only 🙂
Hmm you can go ahead with a movie and be calm, as I said do whatever you love to do and you can feel calm and compose.
No doubts on what ever u suggested to be calm but most of the times difficult to follow & realize latter on that you were wrong but inspite of realizing we do same mistakes again and again.
Yes Mahesh, you are absolutely right. It is better to control yourself at that moment only, than regret about that later. Thank you Mahesh, I am glad that you liked my blog post 🙂
Thanks for sharing those helpful tips but I think we can’t hardly control our emotions when it hurts our self esteem and will do the needful to retrieve it back at all cost…
You are right Treat and Trick, but then you should understand that hurting self esteem is a bit even better than hurting your physical and mental health. Just because you cannot control your patience you are not suppose to harm your heart and body 🙂
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Quite a realistic article on human psychology. Thanks a lot of Alokji.
Thank you so much Sampat Kumari jee 🙂
The reason I took to writing was to vent out my anger. being a person with anger issues it actually helped me a lot.Also ignoring the things that will make me loose my temper works. A great follow up post
You are absolutely right Datta. Blogging is also one of the best way to vent out our anger. Honestly sometimes I too prefer doing so and it helps me to become calm at times 🙂 Thank you so much Datta for sharing your opinion with us.
I totally agree with you when it comes to calming yourself the best thing to do is divert your mind but that is definitely not easy and takes a Lot of patience and practice 🙂 But contacting a best friend has always helped me … And doing what we love to do does makes things easier to stay calm.. I stock up Ice cream and eat load’s of ice cream to stay calm and so far Ice cream has helped me the most 😀 As usual loved the post !
Ha ha, very good Nisa, you have the best tactics to handle anger and it is to eat ice cream 🙂 Great. To be very frank friends are very much required in our life. There are somethings which we cannot even discuss with our parents, siblings, or spouses, and those we can only share with a real friend….
Thanks a lot Najm Nisa for sharing your heart with us….