I know it is too difficult to deal with the criticism in our life. How do you deal with criticism? Can you all please tell me how to handle the criticism?

I don’t know if you too ever had to face criticism in your life or not, but I have faced it badly and so many times in my life.

I have understood that criticism are never fun, be it from anyone, and no matter if it is a constructive one or one which really mean to harm you. Everyone should be able to handle it properly; else the person will feel stressed and negative.

How do you people handle with criticism?

Are you become too angry after coming through criticism, or do you take it as a positive thing to improve?

Whatever your intake is, mine is quite simple. I do accept the fact that I am not a perfect person, and hence I might have made some mistake. When you accept this fact you will definitely feel better.

How to Deal with Criticism

Here are a few ways to deal with criticism in our life:

Accept the Fact That I am Not Perfect

One of the best ways to tackle criticism is to accept the fact that I am not a perfect person. Though it won’t help you to tackle the criticism, but it will give you the strength to handle it properly.

To be very frank when someone criticizes my blogs for poor writing, I truly accept the same as I always accept the fact that my English knowledge is really poor. It is my second language, but still I am trying to improve myself, and this is something which gives me strength to handle this criticism in a really positive manner.

When someone criticizes my blogs that I don’t proof read my blog, I do accept the fact that I really did this mistake, I should definitely proof read my blogs before publishing them, but since I am a part time blogger for the moment, I do consider that I can do proof read at any other time. Second thing, I don’t have a budget to hire a proofreader for my blogs, and if I myself will do proof read, I will definitely overlook so many mistakes in my blog, as in my opinion those are correct, but in fact they are not.

This is the reason why I happily accept the criticism of those natures.

Professionally as well, I have to face so many criticism, especially from guys who don’t know ABC of my field as well. Just because they are a Yes Man to the CEO of the company, they got all the rights to criticize me for works which are quite good enough. The reason why I ignore them is simply because they don’t have the knowledge of the basics of SEO and so they don’t have any right to put finger on my work.

To be very frank, we all are having some flaws in our life. None of us are perfect, and if we do think that we are perfect then I think we are doing mistake. If you think the same way, means you never tried analyzing yourself. And this is the reason why you don’t found any flaws in yourself.

Think about your ideal people and you will find that they too are having some flaws in their life. You consider them as an ideal in your life, just because they came over their flaws and this ability made them great in your eyes.

So why not implement the same in your own life as well. Why don’t you analyze your own flaws? Why not make a list of some of your flaws? Why not accept them as something which you really lacks in your life?

Hope this analyzing will help you out.

Don’t Take it Personally

If you really want to tackle the criticism in a positive manner, then the very first thing which is required in you is the ability to not take any criticism as personal. You are not required to take any criticism as personally.

Let me give you an example. There was a sweet girl who was reporting to me in my last company. Unfortunately she was hired for some works which was not at all her cup of tea, in some other team of the company, and later she has been transferred to my team. I realized the fact that she is not feeling well in the company as she did not had any responsibility over there, but then I trusted her ability and criticized her too at times. I gave her some important tasks and the fact that she took all my criticism in positive manner, helped her to grow in a substantives manner. I really like her growth as far as professionalism was concerned, and it happened because of her ability to take criticism in a positive manner only.

If you really want to handle criticism in a proper manner, you must need to understand whether the criticism is for a constructive purpose, or it was made to disturb you. There are two types of people out here, one are those who will criticize you just because they want you to grow substantially, on the other hand there are guys who just want to disturb you, they will criticize you for anything, just to let you feel disturbed.

To be very frank if you found the intentions of the person who is criticizing you as constructive, you will have to accept the fact that the person wanted you to improve as a person, as an employee, as a friend, as a son or daughter, etc. Their intention will never be to let you down or make you feel uncomfortable.

Let me give you an example of two students of mine, whom I use to teach some basic programming abilities. One of them was the girl who always thought that I am criticizing her just to let her feel down in front of others, while at the same time when I was criticizing the other girl, she use to take it in a way that I really wanted her to improve as a coder. The improvement was on the wall for the second girl, but then I realized this thing and discussed the same with the first girl when no one was there. The moment she realized the fact she too started improving a lot in programming.

Become Less Sensitive

To be very frank, I really hate those guys or girls who have this tendency of crying all the time. It is not at all a good sign that you will feel upset all the time, when someone criticizes you for something.

Common buddies, grow up. Crying and getting defensive, or quarrel all the time, or feel upset is not a good way to tackle the constructive criticism. The ideal way to accept the criticism is to improve on your own flaws and then ask feedbacks from your known persons about areas on which you further need improvement.

Stop Making Excuses

One of the things which I really don’t like is the tendency of making or giving excuses for everything. Don’t give excuses for why the other person is criticizing you. Try to see if there is some truth to it. Don’t ignore the criticism if you are aware that there is a bit of truth in it.

Instead of making excuses you should rather thanks the person who criticized you for providing you the opportunity to improve upon.

To be very frank we all become a bit defensive and start giving excuses for criticism, but it is not the best way to handle it.

So the above points were about the constructive criticisms, but what about destructive one?

Well the most important thing which you can do is to understand the fact that the person is criticizing your for a destructive purpose. The other person wants you to feel bad about yourself, thus to respond them in a positive manner is to thank them gracefully and ignore their criticism. Always stay confident, when it comes to deal with destructive criticism.

I am quite sure I must have missed some other ways to handle the criticism, if you do know some other ways, don’t hesitate in sharing the same in the form of comment from below. Also as I asked you already that how do you people handle the criticism; I would love to hear your responses about it.