How to Deal with Difficult Spouses!

Sometimes it’s really difficult for us to deal with our respective spouses. Many of them start behaving like kids, they throw tantrums. Probably they need you to pay more attention to them. Check these:

Is the nature of your spouse driving you crazy?
Are they shouting and screaming you out completely?

If the possible answer here is a “yes”, then you probably should check the below written points which will help you guide as to how you should handle your spouse’s, before you end up thinking about the divorce thing. Most of the times decisions that are taken hastily, will make you repent in the near future. So, be a person who has a stable mind, use it before you are devastated.

May be there are times when your partner behaves in a manner which is kiddish. But an important thing here to realize is that every person has a kid inside then which the other person often gets to see when they are in a close relation to that person. There is certainly no harm in behaving in such a manner, there may be a reason behind that too. But one important thing for you to realize is that you shouldn’t retaliate, your retaliation would mean the end of your relationship.

If your spouse (usually female) needs a childlike treatment from you, treat him/her like a kid. Notice their actions and behavior, may be they need something from you, might not always be something material, but a caring and an understanding attitude. If even this doesn’t work out, you may handle them with ways that can help you.

In case you feel that your spouse is angry with the way you spoke to him/her in a blunt manner, try to reconcile things that your end and apologize by saying, “honey I’m sorry for the way I spoke to u and I didn’t mean to hurt you in such a manner”, this can do wonders try doing this, the child inside him/her will certainly forget the anger and will smile with the same passion and joy.

If it is a female spouse who is a little difficult to deal with, seek for things that can make her happy.Be it a housewife or a working lady, both can be annoyed and irritated with the work they have to deal with at home or at office. Try and do something which can make them feel good:-

Take them out for shopping, this can surely make her feel wanted. Shop for her if in case you know her taste, if not ask her to shop for herself and pay for it without considering , the amount spent (which should obviously be reasonable).

Buy her some jewellery, women and jewellery are completely inseparable. Some prefer gold, some love diamonds and the royal ones prefer platinum. Buy her some jewellery for an occasion, this will make her feel special, and probably even you can get something in return after being so generous.

Come home early, give her surprises by presenting her with movie tickets, take her out on candle light dinner. Do not let the feeling of love die between the two of you, because in near future this will seem to be nothing more than mere obligations of being with each other.

Make her feel special in every possible way. I’m sure you will soon find things back on the track as they earlier were.

You have to be the one to de-escalate matters that she tries to escalate, probably one reason that she escalates matters is that she wants you to realize the situations. So be patient and listen to what she has to say and then justify yourself.

If it is a male spouse who is difficult to deal with here are following ways ladies in which you can try and get things back on track.

We all know that the male ego is a shell difficult or rather in some cases completely difficult to crack. They feel their lines and words should be followed as it is without any questions being raised, if such is the case with your spouse, things might be difficult eventually but they’ll surely be great.

Make him feel special by cooking his favorite food at home without making him spend much.

Understand and follow his words for sometime till the time he is normal. I know this might be a difficult task to follow, but eventually this is something which can save you two from eventually breaking the bond that you share.

Get dressed in his favorite sari or and any other dress that he bought you. Arrange some special dinner outside for just the two of you.

Make your demands limited. This is such a phase where you have to understand that asking for too much shall not turn out to be good.

Give him his space; else the things and efforts that you are planning to put in might give opposite results.

Therefore, in order to be a happy couple as earlier, there might be times when you have to put your ego aside and deal with each other’s ego. During their time when you both are not really sharing a great relationship, let things be the way they are for the time being.

Time is the best healer

Reschedule your plans accordingly, take out time from your busy schedule in order to have a peaceful chat with your partner on a particular issue. The two of you spending quality time is more important, and discussing issues that bother the relationship you share.

Do not expect him/her to change overnight

Expecting you difficult partner to change overnight is definitely not possible. The reason being. If you have decided to be with a person who is way too stubborn to change himself/herself then it’s your problem and not their either you accept them the way they are or leave them if it is easy for you to do so, but expecting them to change overnight is so not possible.

Try these various tactics that we have listed down I am sure this will help you a great deal to help manage your difficult partner, but a personal tip that I would like to give here is that , in case you feel that the person with whom you have decided to stay is the best for, you cannot get anyone better than him/her, then please do not let such a person go away from your life, because at some point of time you might feel that it is difficult for you to live with such a person, your mind might even be choked thinking about all of this, but your love for him/her will never let them go. So be wise enough when you make decisions, because that concerns not just your emotions and feeling but also of those partners, who want to be with you but are not able to express.