Seven Mistakes Which Should Always be Avoided in Friendship!

Yesterday was the Friendship day, though I was not much excited about the same, but thought to share some personal views about the same with my readers. Friendship is one of the finest things anyone can have, but during recent few years the meaning of friendship has changed a lot.

If you ask me then selfishness is taking over the true friendship from last few years. These days people use to remember friends only if they had some work from them. Though sites like Facebook, Orkut, Twitter, etc. brought friends closer as well, but still the warmness which we were feeling a few years back after meeting the friend is eloping somewhere.

I am sure you all would not support the above lines, but somehow the definition of the friendships has changed lately. The prime reason behind all these is the busy schedule which we all have in our personal as well as professional life. Although taking two minutes out of the 17-18 active hours of a day, for a friend, is not that much hard in my opinion.

Well, as I mentioned that yesterday was the friendship day, and it remind me one friend of mine, who had a friendship with me on the same day a few years back. We remained friend for around four to five years. Today we two don’t have any kind of connection, despite being the fact that we were two great friends. It was not only the story of one of my friends, but the same has happened with many people who came into my life. Almost all of them claimed that we will remain friends forever, but for some reasons or others, we are now not even in the touch.

For many of us, the same story applies. New friends always come into our life and old friends go from our life. It’s a continuous chain process. In my opinion, we should always try to keep the friends together, though we all do some kind of mistakes which initiate the separation between the friends.

Here are a few mistakes which we should always be avoided in a friendship, as it can create the problem in the friendship.

Giving Suggestions

I am not saying that giving suggestions in friendship is a bad thing, rather always giving suggestions, which too without listening to your friends are a crime in friendship. The basic of the friendship is that you should understand your friend; you should listen to your friend. Talking is something which creates the bonding between friends, but it should not always be one directional. You are required to hear the voice of your friend as well and suggest him/her whatever you think necessary for them as well, but you should suggest only when your friend asks you the same.

Many people have a tendency to give suggestions in every topic, which is not good. Your friend shares something with you, means he/she simply want to share his/her mind of state, it doesn’t always mean that your friend needs any suggestion.

Similarly, when you are sharing something with your friends, you should share everything with honesty, as hiding something from your friend is not a healthy symbol for good friendship.

Don’t Try to Change Your Friend

Well no body is perfect in this world. Similarly, you should understand that your friend is also not perfect. When we start communicating with someone, we tend to notice only the positive things of the same. But, with time, you will also notice the negative aspect of the same person. A good friend is those who can have the capacity to accept people with their negatives as well.

In a friendship, we like some habits of the friend, and dislike some also. We also need to try to change the friends, but to an extent only. We can suggest them a bit about changing the bad habits, but we are not supposed to force anything to them. So the best practice in a friendship is that don’t try to change your friend ever. Accept him/her with the entire positive and negatives.

Don’t Ignore Your Friend; When He/She is in Need

Well the real mantra behind the true friendship is that a friend in Need is a Friend Indeed. I always believe on this, and try to implement the same too.

Happiness and sadness are the part of everyone’s life. The general conception about the friendship is that we should party together; we should chill out together, means all kind of fun activities are normally considered in a friendship. The real friendship is far ahead from the concept of party and fun. It lies with the requirement of the friends.

Many people made the worst mistake of their life, by ignoring the friend who actually needs you. Whenever you found your friend in trouble, you should ask him/her about the problem and in case if you won’t be able to provide any help, even then too you should stand with your friend at his/her bad phase of life.

Understanding

Understanding is one of the most important aspects of a true friendship. Frankly we should always understand our friends, and we should also understand the limitations of our friends. Always remember that there are many other people and relationships associated with your friend, and he/she also need to give time and importance to them as well. It applies to you too as well.

So, never think that your friend will always remain only your friends. Try to give space to your friends too.

Sharing Your Feelings

As we already discussed the importance of understanding in the friendship, but sharing is also one of the most important qualities of the friendship. For each relationship we need to share our feelings. If we like someone we should express the same to him/her, but we should not required displaying the same affection all the time. We should try to express the importance of our friend in our life with the help of remembering the important days of our friend, like the birthday, marriage anniversary, etc. of the friend, and wishing them on the same day. The friend should not have the feeling that you forget the most important day of his/her. It will hurt them.

Commitment

Other than understanding and sharing, commitment is also one of the most important requirements of any friendship. We should always understand that if we commit something to our friend, we should always fulfill the same too.

If we won’t be able to fulfill something, then we should avoid committing for the same. Those who will follow this line in friendship will never hurt their friends.

Always Doing which We Like

One of the most usual mistakes which we make in friendship is that we always try to do things which we like. Mostly, we use to ignore the likes and dislikes of our friend, while deciding something and it actually hurts them.

We should always ask some suggestions for making any plan of outing, or watching movie, etc. We should also need to give importance to their suggestions rather than saying them that I have decided to watch this movie and you need to go with me, or I have decided that we are going to following hill station along with you.

We should always ask the likes and dislikes of our friends, and try to implement the same on the joint program.

There can be differences in the friendship, but we should always remember that these differences should not be converted into something which can separate friends.

I always remember one line: I am not perfect, and I do make mistakes. I am a human being and I am supposed to make mistakes, but let’s come into my life, and we two will enjoy one another for what we actually are. You being the friend of mine will understand my mistakes and similar applies to me too.

The above line always inspires me.