Growing Incidences of Infidelity!

Cases of infidelity are quite common these days. The most famous people of the world like Arnold Schwarzenegger and Dominique Strauss Kahn have been accused of having extramarital affair. For the powerful and rich it is quite affordable to conceal an extramarital affair. But this does not mean that ‘infidelity’ is the work of bad, selfish narcissists, cheat or liars only. It is present in the shadow of almost every relationship and it is far more common than we actually might think of.

The correct statistics on this issue is quite difficult as it is still considered a taboo and no one will accept it publicly. But still a research shows that somewhere between 20%-50% adults had cases of infidelity. Infidelity has led to much separation; even it is the most leading reason for divorces. This has also led to increase in domestic violence as well.

It is quite hard to accept but we all are a little vulnerable to infidelity at some point of time in life while having a relationship for a long time. We can say it is an easy way to get our needs fulfilled without any commitment, rather in an enjoyable way.

Infidelity leads to shattering of membranes of coupledom which are privacy, trust and loyalty. Infidelity seems like a guided missile to explode the relationship in order to force some changes. It is said that it requires two to make a relationship but as far as infidelity is concerned it has only victims and villains. The one who got strayed from the path is to be blamed. They forgot to keep their knickers on and this is what is interesting as why did they do it.

One reason of doing so was that they were not daring enough to leave the constancy of their relationship without having someone to run to. This could be taken in other sense as well that this was not the way to leave but to withhold. It could be a kind of revenge for other sorts of crimes in relationship, for instance, withholding or withdrawing from sex, not engaging in partner’s life, refusal to listen and so forth. It could also be a kind of depression management of a person leading a dead monotonous life and by indulging in infidelity he could add a spark of danger, excitement along with drama of secrecy. While some many think it is as a kind of rebellion against the whole system of marriage.

It would be quite surprising for you to know that when one feels disempowered in different spheres of life, he seeks sex as a form of empowerment. It is not necessary that the person involved in an extra marital affair is looking for another person rather for a new version of themselves only, one who can escape the responsibilities of marriage or parenthood. It seems that they wish to fulfill the vacuum in their life. The only way we can sustain a relationship is by accepting the fact that there are always chances of sexual betrayal in any relationship.