Find hard to say a NO?
Many times in our life we should have to refuse some situations but because of various reasons and weakness in our personality we are unable to say a NO which gives rise to future difficulties. You might be feeling shy, afraid or ashamed of saying NO or you might not want to hurt the feelings on the other person but a NO secures our future and is a need of the moment, then How to tackle this NO?
Think before giving an answer to the person. Ask yourself if there might be any circumstances that could make you take that proposition. Make the things clear while saying a NO. Behave as friendly as possible. You can use sentences like –“If only you didn’t live that far…” or “The thing is I’m not feeling well now”.
Words used by you while explaining your NO can make a grate change on the reaction of the concerned person. Be positive in your conversation. Use “I feel” instead of “You make me feel”. There is no need for the other party to feel guilty. Show and tell what you like about him or her.
Refuse straightly but be elegant while speaking. Make it clear that the other isn’t for you, don’t give desert hope. But in case a Yes is possible but you have doubts then you can give some hope after a clear explanation of your doubts and the situation but the next step will have to be yours.
In case the person wants to push you in any threatening situation then forget your elegance. Be firm in saying a strict NO. If anyone makes you feel uncomfortable, forget your manners and set boundaries strictly otherwise you will have to pay in future.
It is always better to think before acting instead of regretting in future. Learn from your past experience. NO is a better option than to regret.
You might be feeling shy, afraid or ashamed of saying NO or you might not want to hurt the feelings on the other person but a NO secures our future and is a need of the moment.