Love marriage Vs Arranged marriage!

Arranged marriage is best and also love marriage is better when arrange after love with agree with two family.

whether it is love or arrange marriage, the main thing is that, one should have responsibility,commitment,love and concern towards the relation.

I personally feel love marriage is better in the sense that it gives you a sense of comfort that u r with a guy about whom you at least know. n its not just knowing , but u r with a guy whom you love, like and have decided to stay with. But, when the family is not happy with the descision, then we should definitely forego our love. i mean when its a question of either choosing our family or our ‘love’, then we should definitely go with the family coz even if we know or we dont, its the family first. nothing can beat the love you have for your family. No third person can come in beteen u n ur family. At the moment if you dont feel so , then u just being driven away by your love. Even if u realize or u dont , thats’ the fact and hard truth !!!! You dont love anybody more than your mom , dad and siblings. Even if you have fallen in love with a guy/ girl, they are just next to family , never before them !! Plz realize . .

If you love someone, you shouldn’t dump them because your family doesn’t approve. Your family could be wrong in their assumptions or evaluations of the person you love. It could just be a personality conflict and nothing more. I’m not against arranged marriages. To each his own. But if you really love someone and you have a good relationship with that person, you should be able to have the experience of being with them without your family dictating how you should feel. I think it would be tragic for a woman to have to miss that or give it up because someone else tells them to. If your family really loves you, they wouldn’t expect you to do so. They’d want you to have happiness in that relationship.

There is nothing right or wrong and both types of marriages aren’t comparable. I have seen both types of marriages breaking bitterly and then again some other being very successful. However this general belief that parents can be held responsible when something goes wrong in an arranged marriage is bullshit. When something goes wrong, well… it has already gone wrong. Apart from trying to get you together your parents can’t do much. And when you hold them responsible they’ll reply – “yes we are responsible”. Well what next? Who suffers?

I don’t mind arrange marriages but I’m an Indian that lived in white neighborhood, went to white schools, and went to jobs that are white owned. Therefore, I want to be arranged to a white woman. Nothing against Indian women, but my upbringing and identity is white.

But since a young age, I’m told to marry an Indian. Fine. Lets live in a area where it is predominantly Indian, Indian schools, and jobs/oppurtunities are Indian. But Indians don’t like other Indians due to caste, status, or circumstances. They want to live white but want their kids to marry Indians. Bull. I want full-tilt.

I personally believe Love marriage is better. I’m currently dating an Indian guy and I’m Asian, we been together for almost 3yrs. now. I have nothing against arrange marriage but bottom line we have the right to choose our life partners and our family should support us in any decision we make. And there is no one to blame but the two people in the relationship if things gone wrong.

I think love marriage is better, not that I have a problem with arranged, but I could not imagine marrying a stranger, I remember when I just started dating a guy and be want to get married after a month I thought this is too fast, I have been dating my guy for 3years and I feel ready and mature for marriage, but honestly this is an individual thing, I have heard of arrange marriage and love marriages not working out, I just think the family disowning part that some people experience is sad, it is never a reason to cut your son/daughter one out of your life over someone they fell in love with…

Its quite surprising that our forum does not having a running discussion around the advantages and disadvantages of love vs arrange marriage. As a guide for future singles, please share you opinion on whether love marriage or arranged marriage is better for the long-term happiness of the couple.

From my part, I think arranged marriage is better because of the following.

a. In love marriage, you start with very high expectations that were set during courtship. After marriage as those expectations are not satisfied, your disappointment starts. In arranged marriage, you start with very low (or no) expectations from your spouse. You get pleasantly surprised by everything.

b. As parents and family helped made the marriage possible, they also feel a tacit responsibility to make the marriage work. So, they gloss over minor issues which on the other hand gets amplified in a love marriage.

Would love to hear the thoughts of others as well.

I think that love marriages r good….. n if we think about parents then arrange marriages r better. I just think that, if we think about our parents then that is not bad, but how long they r going to live with us, not more than 15 to 20 years of our marriage.
I also don’t want to hurt my parents but thinking some about personally it is really not good that spoil our life with a wrong life mate. because after them we have suffer for a very long time, really……..
And thinking of other side of this, why our parents don’t think that if our son/daughter is happy with some one then that is good fro there life??
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because I really want some opinions from u my frnds….

I think we should be bachular not a married person. Marriage word is taken from hindi word ” Marij ” that is Patient. Our population are increasing day by day. Therefore India is facing many problems. We must help the government for family planning.

i think love marriage is bettter than arrange coz its our life not our parents

i have been in to many relationships …there are two major
things to consider in a love marriage
1)do you love your partner more or the partner loves you more
2)some where inside you have a feelin you can find some one justa better

its a perfect blend when your partner loves you more…all the qulaities of arranged marriage are taken care like expectations etc cause your partner is ready to do anything for you….and ready to adapt to change ,good or bad times your partner is always there, some where down the road family also accepts if both are happy….

second situation is where the problem arises…where one of them is happy but feels some thing better can happen….so looks at the family desision to be secure…but ends but in disaster as he relaises.. the previous partner was much better …saying goes its better to know a known devil than a unknown devil

i think love marriage marriage is a intial struggle but a life time of satsifaction to grow old with some one you love……on the other hand arrange marriage is for some one who cannot get a patner, social status reasons,security…..family…etc…

i have been in to many relation but i never felt to get married bcs if u get marrid u will b bounded with the one,so dont marry and engoy being bachelor

I am a supporter of love marriage for the following reasons:
1. In case of love marriage, you get the person of your choice while in arranged marriage you get the person of someone else choice. Hence love marriage is marriage by choice while arranged marriage is marriage by force.
2. Love is the greatest thing in the world which you experience in love marriage. So what about arranged marriage? In arranged marriage husband and wife know each other only after marriage and after marriage only compromise takes place and hence no love happens.
3. If you do love marriage, then it will prove you are not dependent on parents and hence grown up. On the other hand if married parents’ choice, this proves you are still dependent on them and hence still a kid.
4. Love marriage clears all the evils like communalism, dowry, caste system and many more. Arrange marriage strengthens all these.
5. In love marriage there is more freedom compared to arranged marriage. Arranged marriage is like husband wife locked up in a prison. Hence even if they have fights they will have to stay together. So life in arranged marriage is as bad as hell. In love marriage if the life becomes miserable you can split which you cannot in case of arranged.
6. Only in undeveloped country arranged marriage system is there while in all developed countries it is absent.

i think love marriage is not bed if your lover is 100% true.with u, if it’s just afection, then it will be unsucessful, and if both are loving each other with honestly then they should marriage with each other and consider their defaults and + points,and share with each- other ,then they will be supereb couple in univercel… they will always happy and joy ther life..it’s true.. but i am come at family metter, then u should give trully all matter front of family and wait for “yes” by parents, as u know parents have a soft corner, they will agry..

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Coming to my problem i loved my friend from past 4 years he is still loving me very much.But in middle we got small communication gap.he got central govt job but he has small eye problem because of that he scare of that job up to permanent.In middle he neglected me bcz of his job tensions from one side my parents increased stress on me about my marriage in some critical situation i agreed my parents proposal my engagement over with some one but we have one year gap for marriage.He is also good.

After one week of engagement he got permanent letter of job he come back for me asking to marry him.he said apologies for his mistake.i know he is very good still i am also having love on him.But right now how can i marry him. i have only one option going away from my parents and marry him.But with out my parents i cant expect my life at the same time i cant adjust with some other person except him.Please give any good solution.Which one is better?

nw a days love has become a passion it is nt better to encourage love-mrg .there should be a understanding between thw two person arrange or love marriage that helps us to achive our gole.

i think luv s far beter tan arrnged…coz dey hve mre understandigs..n bla bla..wreaes in arrangd dey ll take even years to understand eachothr…n bla bla..so luv s far far better than arranged…

love marriage is not a better option.the lover will not show his real character,when he was in love.they will pritanted to be so caring,loving,etc… this is the story of my life.

I have equal respect for both Love and Arrange marriages. Both have their -ve pts and +ve pts.
I would like real opinions from people who have gone for love marriages and have strained relationship with their parents and people who have gone for ‘actual forced’ arrange marriages. All couples I know if have a happy love marriages(some) and arranged marriages (which was not forced).
What I know is: When they say in love marriages its just love and no compromises, I find it diffcult to gulp it. Especailly in Indian love marriages where the language/caste/food habits(veg vs non-veg) and kids upbringing and also strong feeling for relationship with their respective parents play a major role.

In Indian society, people talk of going against their parents wish(well fine.. go ahead.. I am happy for you), but then after going against their parents wish, they hell bent to force their parents to accept it. WHY?

I can understand some people’s need for love cum arrange marriage. But what happens if you parents don’t like it but still succumb to your needs. Will you will call it love cum arrange marriage or ‘FORCED Arranged’ Love marriage.

If you are in love and your parents don’t like ans you still want to go for a love marriage go ahead, don’t force your parents too much. You are doing the same thing what your parents do which going for some arranged marriages … RIGHT?

kya meri marriage love hoge ya arranged